are of course very common. Almost all relationships go through difficult and testing times sooner or later. Sources of conflict are many and varied, from classic jealousies over infidelities or sudden successes to sexual difficulties or changes in belief and philosophy, from problems with children and relatives to chronic anger, stress at work, stuck arguments, unequal sharing of tasks and all sorts more.
Double or quits? In some cases, calling it a day and breaking up is not only inevitable, it’s highly advisable – there are people who do themselves and those around them no good at all by persisting in negative relationships. A good therapist can, when necessary, help clients to see and to understand this and hence to separate in sensible ways.
But in many other cases, there is much of fundamental value that can and should be rescued. Very many relationships are well worth preserving. Very many couples want to preserve and re-develop their relationships, both for their own sake and for the sake of their dependents. It is here that the services of skilled counsellors can be very useful indeed, helping couples to see things in a new light and to understand one another in new ways.